If you haven't already checked out part one and two of my weekly musings on love, go ahead and give it a read. Finding love in three steps (note: I didn't say "easy steps.") Step One: Pick a target or hope that you become the target. Talk to people and see if anyone around you strikes your fancy. Keep an open heart to anyone you meet. Don't judge a book by its cover and don't write a person off as an idiotic jerk until you have actually spoken to them first. Step Two: See if your target is worth it. Hang out with said person and strike up some conversation. Compare interests. Figure out if their personality appeals to you. Good questions to ask yourself: Do we share anything in common at all and can we connect on a similar wavelengths? Can you sustain a conversation with whomever for longer than ten minutes? If no is your answer, then you've certainly run into a brick wall. Can you see yourself with this person? Step Three: Weasel your way into their life and see if that person is interested at all. This is probably trickiest step out of the whole search. To finagle your way into somebody else's life, you need to know enough about him or her to make wise actions. Example: Giving someone a vase full of roses for Valentine's Day is an excellent idea especially if you already know that that person loves flowers. Giving someone a box full of chocolates that that person is highly allergic to is not such a well-thought out idea. I cannot stress to you how important it is to take the chance to learn more about your target before you act. Listen to them talk and don't just zone out. Listening to someone's news of the day or rants about the world gives you tons of clues. Don't go to the extreme of stalking, but do pay attention to subtle details and do find a way to weasel your way into their life.
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