A little more than a year ago, I wrote a lovely piece of creative writing for my English class titled "Letter to a Future Boyfriend." Out of all of the compositions I've published on the website Teen Ink, "Letter to a Future Boyfriend" is the most popular and viewed work that I've submitted. This strangely witty letter outlining specific requirements for a future love was written out of pure curiosity to see what I could concoct for my creative writing assignment. "Letter to a Future Boyfriend" was created out of what twisted humor I had at the time, but every now and then throughout the purely fictional composition, I glimpse snippets of my own personal thoughts from back then. I look back over the piece now and see how the words half-way mimic the words I'd say now if you asked me what I wanted in a future boyfriend. In other parts, the words are strangely reminiscent of a former me. Somehow rereading my written words, I can spot the many ways my perspective and my heart has changed since I penned that work.
These days, people who I haven't seen in a while come up to me. Oddly, every person asks me the same three questions:
1) How's college going?
2) Are you loving it?
3) Have you found the special guy in your life yet?
I honestly have no idea why this third question is the most frequently brought up, and it occurs right after I talk about my infinitely long list of accomplishments. Is it because I'm in college people assume that I'll find love with a snap of my fingers or a twitch of my nose?
My answer: No, not yet. Single still. "Aww...well, you'll find someone soon. You're smart, you're talented--why wouldn't anyone want you as their girlfriend?" There's one flaw with this logic: No one looks at your résumé before they decide to date you. Point made.
If I was to add anything new to my "Letter to a Future Boyfriend," I'd have to say that guys need to start looking within and stop focusing on superficial aspects. It may sound silly to say this, but I desire for someone to tell me that I am beautiful inside and out. How about a flattering compliment about my intelligence or my talents? Or how about someone telling me that I have a beautiful heart and soul? How nice would that be?
Too often people are written off just because of appearances. The appearance of always studying in the library rather than hanging out with friends on a Friday night. The appearance of preferring a pair of comfy three year old tennis shoes to impossible to walk in three inch heels. The appearance of being terribly bitter when you're just talking. Sometimes I wish that people would look within and see what beauty lies within the soul if you only get to know the person a little better. For now, I'll keep waiting. Love may not come any time soon, but I can keep an open heart to any reply from a future boyfriend